You are an
Over-Thinker 

Characteristics of the Over-Thinker

• You don’t just plan—you over-plan, because what if something unexpected happens?
• You replay conversations in your head, analyzing tone, word choice, and facial expressions.
• You struggle to let things go because what if there’s something you missed?
• You assume that if you think about something enough, you can prevent bad outcomes.
• You feel responsible for managing situations, people, and emotions—even when no one asked you to.

Why we are Too Old for this Shit

At this point, we’ve spent decades living inside our own heads—overanalyzing texts, replaying conversations, and mentally rehearsing scenarios that might happen (but usually don’t). We’ve wasted actual years trying to predict, prevent, and perfect everything—as if overthinking has ever stopped life from being unpredictable. Spoiler: It hasn’t.

And honestly? We’re too damn old for this sh*t.

We no longer have the time (or patience) for:

• Over-explaining ourselves just to make sure no one “takes it the wrong way.”
• Rereading a text five times before sending it (then regretting it anyway).
• Losing sleep over a mildly awkward interaction no one else remembers.
• Mentally reworking decisions we already made—because what if there was a better choice?
• Trying to control things with our thoughts—as if life is a chessboard and we’re the master strategist.

But Here’s the Plot Twist:

You don’t have to stop thinking things through—you just have to stop overthinking in ways that leave you exhausted, paralyzed, and convinced that if you just analyze harder, you’ll finally feel in control.

Positive psychology (and, frankly, science) teaches us that overthinking isn’t problem-solving—it’s just mental exhaustion in disguise. True confidence and clarity don’t come from playing out every possible scenario in your head—they come from trusting yourself enough to make a decision and handle whatever happens next.

Life isn’t built on perfectly planned, zero-risk choices—it’s built on action, adaptability, and learning as you go. The peace of mind you’re looking for? It doesn’t come from overanalyzing every decision or trying to control every outcome. It comes from learning the skills to trust yourself, quiet the mental noise, and build the resilience to handle whatever comes next.

01. Small & Solid Step Forward

Give yourself a decision deadline—then actually stick to it.

Instead of spiraling for hours over what to text back, what restaurant to pick, or whether you should go to that thing you don’t really want to go to, set a simple rule:

• Tiny decisions? 60 seconds. (Pick the thing, send the text, move on.)
• Bigger choices? 24 hours. (Sleep on it, but no endless pros/cons lists.)

Why? Because the longer you overthink, the harder it feels to decide.

Science shows that when you set a deadline, your brain stops searching for the perfect answer and starts working with what you already know.

Decide, act, move on. You’ll be shocked at how much easier life gets when you stop treating every choice like a high-stakes chess match.

02. Medium & Mighty Step Forward

Make an “Oops, It’s Cool” List

Overthinking convinces you that every decision is high-stakes, but spoiler: you’ve made imperfect choices before, and nothing collapsed. Your brain just doesn’t keep track of those wins—so let’s fix that.

Start a list called “Oops, It’s Cool” where you jot down moments like:

✔ You made a quick decision, and it worked out.
✔ You thought you messed up, but no one noticed or cared.
✔ You skipped overthinking, and life went on.

Why? Your brain has negativity bias, meaning it clings to mistakes and ignores wins. Neuroscience shows that consciously recalling past successes rewires your brain to build self-trust—making decisions feel easier over time.

The key? Make it fun. Keep it in your notes app, write your wins dramatically (“I picked a restaurant in under 30 seconds—alert the press!”), and skim it whenever doubt creeps in. Proof: You don’t need to overthink everything.

Hi, I'm Kira

I’m a plus-size, neurospicy, no-BS, sweary Gen X podcaster & coach who thrives on big ideas, deep conversations, and a dash of ridiculousness.

My brain is a whirlwind of curiosity, connection, and creativity—sometimes chaotic, always passionate. I don’t do linear, I don’t do boring, and I definitely don’t do timelines (because life isn’t a checklist, and I’m on my own damn schedule).

Late Bloomer? Hell yes.

• Found my life passion & purpose at 35
• Started my podcast at 39
• Led my first retreat at 40
• Met my husband at 41, married him at 45
• Got certified in positive psychology at 44
• Hosted my 25th retreat at 50

Best part...I’m just getting started.

If you’re here, you’re probably looking for real talk about happiness, love, midlife, and building a life that actually feels good. That’s what I do—through coaching, community, and my podcasts. Because knowing what to do isn’t the same as actually doing it, and I’m here to help you bridge that gap.