You are Way Too Old to be this much of an Over-Achiever

Characteristics of the Over-Acheiver

• You have too many tabs open in your brain, so you do none of them.
• You could start, but what if you mess it up? Better to wait until you're really ready (which, of course, never happens).
• You start projects or plans… then abandon them when you realize they won’t turn out exactly how you imagined.
• You tell yourself you’ll do it tomorrow—then spend tomorrow beating yourself up for not doing it today.
• You feel so behind on things that even fun activities start to feel like a burden.

Why we are Way Too Old for this Shit

At this point, we’ve spent decades tweaking, refining, overthinking, and waiting for the perfect moment to do… well, anything.

We’ve made extensive pro/con lists, consulted the internet, polled our most trusted people, and maybe even watched a TED Talk—only to end up so overwhelmed that doing nothing felt like the safest option.

And honestly? We’re too damn old for this sh*t.

We no longer have the time (or patience) for:

• Waiting until we feel "ready" or for the perfect time.
• Overanalyzing tiny decisions like they determine the fate of the universe 
• Letting fear of imperfection keep us frozen in decision purgatory  
• Bingeing all the self-help books and podcasts and then… do absolutely nothing with it—except wonder if we’re just fundamentally broken.
• Believing everyone else has some magical level of certainty we don’t 

You don’t have to stop caring about doing things well—you just have to stop tying your self-worth to how perfectly you execute every decision, project, or interaction.

Because let’s be real—this isn’t just about high standards. It’s about that voice in your head that tells you you’re only as good as your last success. That whispers you can’t afford to mess this up. That convinces you you need to prove yourself over and over again.

Perfectionism isn’t about excellence—it’s about fear. Fear that if you don’t get it just right, people will think less of you. That if you don’t do it perfectly, you’re somehow less worthy, less capable, less valuable.

Positive psychology (and, frankly, science) tell us that how we talk to ourselves matters. 

01. Small & Solid Step Forward

Catch Yourself in the Act of Self-Criticism—and Do a Self-Worth Swap Script

Because changing how you talk to yourself is the first step to changing how you feel about yourself.

Instead of “I’m such a mess, I should have done better,” try “I’m human, and I’m doing my best.”

Your brain believes what it hears the most—even when it comes from you. Neuroplasticity research shows that the more you repeat a thought, the stronger the neural pathways around it become. That means every time you replace a harsh self-judgment with a kinder, more balanced statement, you're literally rewiring your brain toward self-worth instead of self-criticism.

It doesn’t have to feel true at first—just interrupting the pattern is enough to start shifting it.

02. Medium & Mighty Step Forward

Accept the compliment!

Every time you accept a compliment without brushing it off, you’re reinforcing self-worth instead of self-doubt

Next time someone says “You’re amazing”, resist the urge to dodge it with “Oh, it was nothing” or “I just got lucky.” Instead, try a simple “Thank you, I’ll take that!” or even “I receive that compliment in full.”

Science backs this up—our brains believe what we repeatedly tell them. Letting yourself receive positive feedback—without downplaying it—actually rewires your brain to see yourself in a more confident, capable light.

So take the damn compliment—because you really do deserve it.

Hi, I'm Kira

I’m a plus-size, neurospicy, no-BS, sweary Gen X podcaster & coach who thrives on big ideas, deep conversations, and a dash of ridiculousness.

My brain is a whirlwind of curiosity, connection, and creativity—sometimes chaotic, always passionate. I don’t do linear, I don’t do boring, and I definitely don’t do timelines (because life isn’t a checklist, and I’m on my own damn schedule).

Late Bloomer? Hell yes.

• Found my life passion & purpose at 35
• Started my podcast at 39
• Led my first retreat at 40
• Met my husband at 41, married him at 45
• Got certified in positive psychology at 44
• Hosted my 25th retreat at 50

Best part...I’m just getting started.

If you’re here, you’re probably looking for real talk about happiness, love, midlife, and building a life that actually feels good. That’s what I do—through coaching, community, and my podcasts. Because knowing what to do isn’t the same as actually doing it, and I’m here to help you bridge that gap.